Thursday, 8 November 2012

Title change! More

Why I changed my title!

I am not shunning frugaldom I just have no frugal goals. Frugality is great especially when it leads you somewhere. I am just plain poor. yes I am in fuel poverty its official. I own nothing and live in social housing. My frugal ways will not allow me to pay off a mortgage, save for another mortgage or pay into an additional  pension plan.

I have not left being frugal. I still need to live. What frugality does allow me to do is live better than someone who is not frugal. I am not fighting the good fight and winning.  I am just keeping my head above water  by budgeting. And sometimes its tough as there are no flags or banners waving me forward. There is no motion.

No you cry you can always change your situation blah de blah blah.. err no I have exhausted those avenues and am caught in a cycle. 

1. I am not able to orchestrate a move to affordable housing easily and in good time. Social housing does not work well with this. if you don't know the social housing system as it stands in 2012 I will explain it to you at another time. .

2. I must travel to work. No changing that. No buses and as I have strict times for child care I am not flexible enough for car sharing.  This takes up a lot of my salary. Fuel Poverty! More than food spent!

3. Change jobs.... I am restricted by where and when I can work given the limits of childcare and parenting.  I live in the country in a reasonably nice social housing hooose and am limited by point one.  Private renting is out of my league and my old job does not exist anymore. Retraining - see point 1 and country living.

What I can do is penny pinch and give my daughter a cool childhood on not a lot of dosh. I earn just enough to not get benefits of any kind including school dinners, prescriptions etc. They draw the line somewhere and that's me. The line has to be drawn simple as that so lets get on with it!

So good bye frugal rural life and  hello:

  Con Dem- Ned Plebdom- Cheers Marra Dave!

with the caveat of:

 ''Southern Plebby Working Single Mother exiled far north trying to keep afloat after all the blessings brought by Tory Dave. Penny pinching and scraping by with a caustic sense of humour and a wee sweary!''


Con Dem etc - ref to them in power that brought about the changes that knacked me big time.

Plebdom - I am a pleb- simples- working class background, now a single mother in cooncil property ha ha Ok I got me a education somewhere along the line but I am more pleb than professional and do not ear a professional salary. Also single parent - demonic aren't they!

Marra is makem - or sunderlandeese for friend/mate. This is scarcasm.
I also feel condemned to plebdom and blame Dave as all my efforts and drive were thwarted by that evil Bullingdon Etonian!

I likes it!



  1. I love your new title, and when Weeny girl is older she will remember the fun things you did together, the places you took her that cost next to nothing, and that she was loved.I remember those things from my own childhood( I now realise that we were poor - but always loved, warm, clothed and fed). My big girl is 24, and my little one is 17. They remember walks in the woods, picnics in the park, snuggles in bed, cinema afternoons(closed curtains, a DVD and some homemade popcorn),and being woken on New Year's Eve one year because it was snowing, getting dressed and going sledging on a nearby 'hill' - more of a large slope really but fun all the same. Next morning the snow had gone - the little one thought she'd been dreaming!
    Scarlet x ( waving flags and banners because you have such a fab attitude)

  2. many thanks for the banners!!!! I love night time adventures - we like the beach when it is nice weather and warm and taking torches tehn comming home for toast! We have a book called ''the big big sea'' where the little girl goes out with her mum to paddle and plodge in the night time and look at the moon! We replicate.

    One day Weeny will be all grown up too and I hope she remembers as much as your now big wee ones do!

  3. Saw "marra" and then "plodge", just like going home! (Haven't heard plodge for ages!) Good to see you're still here after all the drama - and loved your sweary pics x

  4. Yep North East is my adoptive home. Love it.