Thursday, 10 May 2012

Household purchases ya boo but some Sainsburys bargains.

My iron is not heating. My fault most likely - well certainly. I have left it on. Not only a fire hazard but a pain in the but. Will I ever learn! Sigh. Also my shower attachment ( attached to the taps) decided to burst. Trip to Argos.  Value basics. under  £10.  I hate ironing and do very little of it so I see no point in an iron investment.  I was shocked at the price of the irons however! Who pays over £100 for an iron!!!! Unless you need a specialist one for  what reason/justification I cannot fathom!

Was close to sainsburys and decided to pop in. Was pleasantly surprised by being canny price wise it was fine. Lots of things cheaper than Morrison's or just the same. What was more expensive I saved in other areas. Good to know for when I need to purchase those cheaper items again. Stock Cubes for eg, bread - there is never any cheapo bread left at Morrisons.  Fruit was cheaper for basics apples and pears.  Other stuff around the same or less. Spinach bag - cheaper by 10p. best of all I got three packs of sainsburys pork sausages reduced to 49p each. Now languishing in my freezer.
Only spent £22.  Cooking bacon basics range looked much better than  Morrisons too and all for 99p.

Stocked cupboards. Meals planned for this weekend.
Thai curry
Lemon chicken
Chicken and bacon and veg lasagna.

Other meals - beans on toast and  bacon butties for lunch/brunch/breakfast  Will be able to make twice as much lasagna and freeze it. Also got some baking to do this weekend as well. Our low sugar choc cake mix with choc topping. Mmmmm


I have four tins of lentils. I was going to chuck them into curry but would prefer something else.Not sure what any ideas? I may repost this on its own.

Forgot Weeny has two parties this weekend. A softplay party then a fancy dress on Sunday. The Sunday party I can imbibe some toxic liquids so I hope its nice.

I have pressies in the cupboard - saved toys from Christmas.

Pine Cone research: I do online surveys and have so far this year made £18. Now in vouchers being saved for Crimbo.

Biggles back tomorrow. Can't wait. Want cuddles.
;-)

Wednesday, 9 May 2012

A first, small changes and four year olds

 Only two more sleeps.
Biggles rang to speak to weeny girl this evenign as he promised he would. She was in a preoccupied four year old mood and I think he was a bit upset. Its all new to him this small child thing - I tell him its positive that she acts so very normally around him and feels secure enough with him and his love for her to do so.

I have a friend who adopted a young lad  aged 6. She was thrilled to bits when he had a strop and stormed up stairs and slammed his bedroom door. It mean't he felt secure enough to be normal. He had his huff  just like other kids do. He is now 15.  Its fantastic for her well them really. She was a single woman when she was matched with her son.
Biggles  is mentioned so much more than the other family. Everytime we park at Morrisons in the parent and child spaces.  Look theres Mummy, me and Biggles exclaims Weeny like a little stuck record. He figured in her learning journal- she told her teacher all about him and the teacher wrote what she said in her journal under a family picture. This is Biggles and Mummy. I love  Biggles and Mummy very much.

Wonder who will get the homemade fathers day card this year??? Last year she chose Biggles.

Small changes

I am making small changes. I will take the stairs at work unless I have to walk up five flights of  stairs!
I will take myvitamins every day
I will get to sleep for 11 - or try to! LIGHTS off !!
Moisturiser - I need to do this more often.

First approved food order! Am impressed.

I stocked up on naan breads - lots for ony £2
Red Thai Curry Paste - fantastic for 0.001p for 12
HP sauce x3
Lentils - tinned x4
mayo x6
Curry sauce - my chilhood fav of Maysan paste - tastes just like curry from a chinese take away! x2
Choc cake mix  low sugar and choc block  - weeny and I will be baking at the weekend!!!!

Came to about £18 with postage - I saved lots!

Store cupboard looking happy.

Tuesday, 8 May 2012

Calm now.

Calm now. Alternative things in the world.

Biggles took weeny girl to nursery school to day.  She trotted him in like something out of show and tell and proudly exclaimed that he was her ' Biggles'.  Bless! They were both chuffed.

We had a coffee,  read some paper in  Costa in town, chilled out and made tea before we trotted off to the train station.  

Tea all very frugal - one large chook breast wrapped in bacon stuffed with spreading cheese. Biggles made his cheese sauce ( new skills I taught his from scratch! and now he is the expert) and we had left over veg - carrots and brocoli  and mash.  We split the meat between three of us proportionately.

 The weeny had a fit at  the station. Very upset on goodbye despite the fact that he will be back again in three sleeps for three sleeps.  She ran along the platform waving frantically till other people got in the way and she was devestated as no more waves or smiles.

He texted  Bless how sweet.

We have arranged to take the Jubilee week off together.  maybe scotland, maybe camping in peak district - we will see.

They are close.  That is lovely.

FOR WEAN AND SUE: SELF INDULGENT WHINE WITH A GET IT OFF YOUR CHEST PURPOSE

SELF INDULGENT WHINE WITH A GET IT OFF YOUR CHEST PURPOSE

Which bit of this says oh woe is me???



Which bit of this does not suggest that the post following said title is identified by the author as self indulgent, a bit selfish and one sided however with the get off your chest purpose '' does this turn it into a request for pity, tea and sympathy?

No its a fecking BLOG Entry  docum)enting an episode. Tell you what -  best thing to drag me out of my clearly wallowing self pity pot  (- patronising btw) is to getsomeone who judges and clearly doesn't understand the purpose of a blog entitled SELF INDULGENT WHINE !  Am so much better when I have a rant an am pissed off!

SELF INDULGENT: indulgent of your own appetites and desires;
WHINE: To utter a plaintive, high-pitched, protracted sound, as in pain, fear, supplication, or complaint.
2. To complain or protest in a childish fashion. ( this is the context I mean't it in)3. To produce a sustained noise of relatively high pitch: jet engines whining.
v.tr.


This implies I am well aware that the acompanying post is
a) indulgent - . I recognise this.
b) Whine - I am being childish

I KNOW THIS _ THE TITLE SAYS IT ALL!!!

GET IT OFF YOUR CHEST PURPOSE:  better out than in. 
CATHARTIC:inducing catharsis; purgative.
n.

I also like this one!
CATHARTIC: An agent for purging the bowels, especially a laxative.

Well you have helped - can I compare thee to a bowel irritant?  a good dose of the runnies??


I did not say - A self indulgent whine that is secretly a plea for tea and sympathy and someone to mop my brow and say there there .


Feel free to comment all you like but if you get it wrong and judge and make implications such as

1. My desire to have a child is one sided ( WEAN)
2. I have no money therefore I am being irresponsible in wanting another child.. ( WEAN)
3. I  have not thought through the implications of raising another child  and also child care which thus makes me wrong and selfish ( WEAN)
4. I am being selfish wanting to do a degree at the same time as have a child ( err no that sthe booby prize) ( WEAN)
5. Judgements  regarding my partners salary - yes its large. No I don't spend it its not mine. By fact of me being female does not give me rights to it. It is his and he works bloody hard for and risks his life and mental health in warzones for it. Grrrr  ( WEAN)
6. Edited to include: All that twaddle about going to the wedding with a heavy heart - do you really think I sat there in a corner pouting??? Refusing to talk to the Bride and Groom -???  How ridiculous - NB I wished them well of course - said the bride looked beautiful and told her to cherish every moment of her special day as it passes so quickly. Made polite conversation with people I barely know, who made me feel intimidated etc etc . Doh some people! - Its what you do - you get on with it and turn up and smile. The show goes on. What happens in other places ? Do grown women turn up looking grumpy and act spoilt? ( SUE/WEAN???) Also I turned up becuase it was important to the man I love. His friends. You do this in relationships no matter how much it hurts - you do it for another person.

Sorry for feeling bad not only for myself but fo rnot being able to give the man I love the family he so wishes to have with me. This hurts him. I feel bad. I agree I want a family with him. We love each other truly madely deeply but we are older and not the young things starting out in life full of promise and possibility. 
I will tell you  when you get it wrong and I will and dedicate a whole  post to it.This is because

a. I find the above judgements insulting
b. I find the above judgements insulting
c. I find the above judgements insulting
d. I find the above judgements insulting


This is insulting. It is not that I just disagree.
in case you don't get it!
Insult:1.
a. To treat with gross insensitivity, insolence, or contemptuous rudeness. See Synonyms at offend.
b. To affront or demean: an absurd speech that insulted the intelligence of the audience.
2. Obsolete To make an attack on.
v.intr. Archaic
1. To behave arrogantly.
2. To give offence; offend: a speech that was intended to insult

Really those women who get pg and can't afford it  or then choose to contribute to taxes or have to work to  pay bills really  and have to get in child care - they should be selling their children and all those mums who work for fun get back in the kitchen!!


Oh yes I am feeling so much better - bring it on! And yes I am being all of the above!

Do you know what as well ..

If you choose to read a blog and don't like it then don't read blogs! And yes happily go off to your blog and whine and be self pitying I don't read read it so care not a hoot!!! 

No haven't checked for spelling - don't intend to either so there - tongue out and raspberry blowing!



Jovial: my mood for the rest of the day.

Twit! My final word!

Monday, 7 May 2012

Sorry - self indulgent whine with a get it off your chest purpose....

Yes went to said wedding.  Hated it. Managed to drink at such a pace that I never got drunk and the hangover kicked in while I was awake.

Lots of sucessful people with lots of promise. good salaries, families or family plans.  I felt as if I reminded constantly of what I cannot have. ( family that is - don't care about salary) I can live with not having property/ a house, investment etc but the no family with Biggles aspect is driving me insane. This is th efirst time I have loved someone so much to want children with them ,. I always knew I wanted kids and previously I would compromise in relationships - see Weeny girls father. It was a rebound relationship and given my age  if I wanted children I didn't have the luxury of being able to be that picky. Disaster.  Even my ex husband prior to that I turned a blind eye compromised etc as we both wanted a family.

This time it's him. He inspires me to have children and its not going to happen for us. We tried.

We talked about the married quarter idea again. I 'm not keen. Its a big move and quarters are gossipy and I wouldn't be happy being a housewife with no children. Weeny starts school in September. I can hopefully return to Uni to retrain for a new career. I can't say if  we did do the married quarter thing that we would or wouldn't get pregant however I do know that the odds are strongly against us and that if it didn't happen I woudl have nohting to fill the  hole. No job of any worth to take up my time and occupy my hours when Weeny is at school and getting bigger and bigger by the day. I  would be totally reliant on Biggles. Would that be too much for our relationship?  yes I could work and woudl but it would need to take second place to child care for weeny, fit in with Biggles, Studying would be an issue as we would have to pay for it due to Biggles wage............... And he woudl be moving again in 18 months so no time for a degree.

If I could guarantee offspring or the odds were in our favour maybe..............

He is so good with Weeny which makes it an even more bitter bitter pill.

I know one thing however no more weddings. Sorry to be selfish but not in the right place for them and all the promise.

I am 39 1/2 and hate it. Weddings make me feel washed up and old, over the hill  and that life is over - or rather the chances to try  for the life I would like are over, futile and pointless even if I do which makes me feel like a failure.

I don't give a monkeys uncle about the state of my bank balance at the moment. Money has never done it for me  - having it or not having it - I don't get a kick.  I don't want flash cars, twee cottages,  posh houses, luxury travel all completely pointless.Of  no true worth.








Monday, 30 April 2012

Hair Dye for £1

Yes the pound shop! Sheffield I am afraid.  However if I see it I shall stock up!! Dark brown - all fine. No issues. I was a little septical so only bought one  but its fine. It was non branded - pro colour or something. My hair has not fallen out so am good to go next time I see them.

I also bought some blusher and it works fine as well. Stayed on all day, good colour can't complain for £1.

Am pondering the podiatry. I like the idea that I will be finished and earning again by 42. I also like the idea of cheaper houses in County Durham for eg or other place of the same priceish though I don't think you get much cheaper.

http://www.rightmove.co.uk/property-for-sale/map.html?locationIdentifier=REGION%5E25575&insId=5&sortByPriceDescending=false&maxPrice=60000&minBedrooms=2&displayPropertyType=houses&oldDisplayPropertyType=houses&radius=3.0#_includeSSTC%3Don%26auction%3Dfalse%26displayPropertyType%3Dhouses%26insId%3D5%26locationIdentifier%3DREGION%255E25575%26maxPrice%3D60000%26minBedrooms%3D2%26oldDisplayPropertyType%3Dhouses%26previousSearchLocation%3DUshaw%2520Moor%26radius%3D3.0%26searchLocation%3DUshaw%2520Moor%26searchType%3DSALE%26sortByPriceDescending%3Dfalse%26useLocationIdentifier%3Dfalse%26box%3D-1.87660%2C-1.41243%2C54.68018%2C54.87542%26popupPropertyId%3D22401825%26mapType%3DMap

If I am offered a place I think I may do my utmost to be able to take it. Minimal rations and lifestyle  from the point of being successful - that's if I am of course. Nervous -- err yes.

Also tit head claimed I got the weekend wrong this weekend which upset small girl immensely. I had text to ask about keeping her this weekend as a friend needed someone to look after her daughter who is good chums with Small girl. He said no as he wanted to see Small girl. He is a prat and not very bright or rather he is not very interested in any aspect of Small girls life when she is not with him.  She lets me know little things like he won't let her climb trees, some climbing frames as she is too small he feels which frustrates small one greatly. I am much more relaxed about this as long as I am there.  He wants her this weekend. We have booked or rather Biggles has booked a train ticket for us to go to Sheffield on Friday and travel back with him on Saturday. Small girl is to be dropped off on our way home which won't be till 9pmish. We are at the wedding on Sunday. i had arranged for a sitter  form 1-12 pm - long time but makes it worth someones while given that it is bank hols weekend and also a Sunday.


Ho Hum we shall see what is what.

Hair still a bargain. Look out for it if you are of a dark brown hair dye persuasion.


Wednesday, 25 April 2012

OOO new blogger dashboard!  I'll play around.

Update - poor, and two weeks till W day. ( That's wedding day btw! I am practising my '' you must be very proud smile'' I am awaiting a large car bill.

I have an interview for podiatry degree.

Did I mention I was successful on the PGCE interview????  Went well and I have a place.

Hmmm not sure what to do. I really cannot afford to move this year and commit to a course and either one year or three years of student poverty! Well not afford to run a car as well and pay off my debts.

The small debts are currently standing at about 700 not including the Biggles car loan.

My meagre savings are practically nil! I am also concerned as

PGCE will cost me 15k in debt for 9 months - loan, tuition fee etc
Podiatry will mean 3yrs of not paying a pension and no savings but no debt

I also need to save 5k for a house deposit. County Durham has some very cheap houses in not terrible areas though not my current town's standards lol It being voted one of the best places to live in UK a while ago!

Ho hum I will decide at a later date. I can move in quick smart time If I have to.  Give me six weeks and I can have it sorted.

Work is going well.  Yoof are great. I still do not have a bedroom carpet. I shall wait for freecycle,

The small girl is growing and is fabulous.

We have had several adventures courtesy of the Biggles since my last update

London - weekend before Easter when we had lovely lovely weather
Scotland - Easter with my sister and a night in a cheap hotel in Fort William sans small one who was well taken care of by the auntie
Sheffield  - visit to mother Biggles.

Small girl visits the Sperm Donor this weekend. We will see how well the hand over goes. I may keep her if she cries.  She was devastated saying goobye to Biggles on Sunday when we left Sheffield. Proper tears and howling. He was really upset as well.

Parent teacher meeting !  All grand .  Teacher feels she does marvellously well considering she  spends most of her day in day care! I suppose this is comforting.  Coming along nicely. I go to look after her learning journal. On reading small one had got her teacher to write  I love mummy and Biggles very very much on a picture she had drawn. ( She doesn't call him Biggles but his real name)


Horrible Histories: I love this!!!! Will be much like the wedding I go to in a fortnight . Yes there will be uniforms and a sword arch. Biggles in number  fives or whatever they are so at least I will have eye candy!


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N07darJyUrY