Weeny will be a duckling! Saturday morning slot is now free!!! I am so looking forward to it!!! Only half an hour between 8:30 - 9am but should be great. She loves the water. Got a call out of the blue from the leisure centre. Ok so its another early rise but well well worth it.
We sort out dates and payment next week. not cheap but worth it!
Away to Durham for the evening tomorrow with weeny. B is working this weekend :-(. All sodding weekend. We have a hospital appointment tomorrow but a bit pointless really given the house situation and that his new posting starts in December.
Sigh enjoy whilst we can.
Thursday, 25 August 2011
Wednesday, 24 August 2011
Semper in excremento sum, solum profunditas mutat!
Always in the shit only the depth varies!
Mediation referral in!
Cheque from Scottish power received.
Weeny got docs tomorrow. Also need to bite the bullet and get her name down for a nursery school me thinks. Want her to start asap prob too late for September now. Won't be the RC school that I really want due to lack of child care for after school.
House dropped with old estate agent- might as well get the best out of them. Other agents are positive- checked out a third agent re price and that should drum up interest.
Can only wait and see.
Need to get on with electrical stuff and decorating. before carpet dude on Tuesday. I may not make camping again with Weeny this year. Oh well we have a caravan week in September.
Bank hols- we are off to the scarecrow festival in Rennington. We catch a dreadnaught vintage bus - the scarecrow express to Rennington. This means driving to Alnwick to leave the car to catch the bus to a village only a few miles away from where we live. Weeny loves the bus, or trains - haven't tried trams yet next time we are in Sheffield.
I like the latin quote it sums up my year.- nearly a year since made redundant and the shit really hit the fan.
Mediation referral in!
Cheque from Scottish power received.
Weeny got docs tomorrow. Also need to bite the bullet and get her name down for a nursery school me thinks. Want her to start asap prob too late for September now. Won't be the RC school that I really want due to lack of child care for after school.
House dropped with old estate agent- might as well get the best out of them. Other agents are positive- checked out a third agent re price and that should drum up interest.
Can only wait and see.
Need to get on with electrical stuff and decorating. before carpet dude on Tuesday. I may not make camping again with Weeny this year. Oh well we have a caravan week in September.
Bank hols- we are off to the scarecrow festival in Rennington. We catch a dreadnaught vintage bus - the scarecrow express to Rennington. This means driving to Alnwick to leave the car to catch the bus to a village only a few miles away from where we live. Weeny loves the bus, or trains - haven't tried trams yet next time we are in Sheffield.
I like the latin quote it sums up my year.- nearly a year since made redundant and the shit really hit the fan.
Tuesday, 23 August 2011
Mind change
Will revert back to once a fortnight on a saturday till sunday - same old and do as always did with proviso of mediation. Also will not be dropping off - will meet half way prob Warkworth by the ducks. Still doing mediation and moving as soon as possible.
Mediation
Am going to offer mediation to the Sperm Donor.
I am happy for weeny to:
1. Stay alternate full weekends with the proviso of flexibility if she has special play dates, parties etc etc particularly if he happens to be working or attending a special function and her sister is not there. I count a derby football match as ok many would not but I get how important it is to him and others who are football fans. A cup game unless it was a final or semi would not count. i am happy to be flexible on date changes or reductions for what ever reason. Doesn't have to be one for me. I am a mother.
2. Weekday contact - have always been happy for this but he has said no. She is in child care till 6pm everynight. he could pick her up anytime and I can collect her. if would also solve the after school activities thing - he could take her to swimming lessons. Most dads would be happy to watch their child learn to swim.
3. I also want the open critiscism of me ( and Biggles) in front of the chidren to stop. The girlfriend's son hears it and tells Weeny that his mum and Sperm Donor are saying naughty things about me and B. This MUST STOP. We do not and never have done this. B is an expert in this having had step parents and not having contact with his father and going through a messy divorce as a child and has insight. He is very stong on what not to do and also his role in weeny's life. He is very secure in that he has a special relationshp with her that is their own- not mine, not sperm donors but theirs.
I will offer contact in a neutral place - soft play. I am happy to leave them for an hour or more for one to one contact and her sister is invited of course . I will FB message sisters mum to see if they want to meet up but I know this may get her into trouble and annoy him so may not happen.
Bless B . He is just lovely. After my estate agent fees and issues he posted a cheque through my door for £300 to be added to the interest free loan. I cried. I am very lucky.
Got a good progesterone level - okish 54??? So will take that to specialist on Friday .
Feeling much happier after rant and more in control. House hopefully will sell asap and new chapters can begin. If this happens and I move to an hours drive away will still accomodate contact of some sort some how.
Also made contact with my sister. We fell out a while ago and probably will never be the same but life is too short and her fab daughter got ace GCSE results - IGCSE's come out earlier than normal GCSE's as they are international! All A's and A stars except the B for Malay 1 mark from an A and a C grade for Additonal maths which was very theory maths and was an extra IGCSE.
I am happy for weeny to:
1. Stay alternate full weekends with the proviso of flexibility if she has special play dates, parties etc etc particularly if he happens to be working or attending a special function and her sister is not there. I count a derby football match as ok many would not but I get how important it is to him and others who are football fans. A cup game unless it was a final or semi would not count. i am happy to be flexible on date changes or reductions for what ever reason. Doesn't have to be one for me. I am a mother.
2. Weekday contact - have always been happy for this but he has said no. She is in child care till 6pm everynight. he could pick her up anytime and I can collect her. if would also solve the after school activities thing - he could take her to swimming lessons. Most dads would be happy to watch their child learn to swim.
3. I also want the open critiscism of me ( and Biggles) in front of the chidren to stop. The girlfriend's son hears it and tells Weeny that his mum and Sperm Donor are saying naughty things about me and B. This MUST STOP. We do not and never have done this. B is an expert in this having had step parents and not having contact with his father and going through a messy divorce as a child and has insight. He is very stong on what not to do and also his role in weeny's life. He is very secure in that he has a special relationshp with her that is their own- not mine, not sperm donors but theirs.
I will offer contact in a neutral place - soft play. I am happy to leave them for an hour or more for one to one contact and her sister is invited of course . I will FB message sisters mum to see if they want to meet up but I know this may get her into trouble and annoy him so may not happen.
Bless B . He is just lovely. After my estate agent fees and issues he posted a cheque through my door for £300 to be added to the interest free loan. I cried. I am very lucky.
Got a good progesterone level - okish 54??? So will take that to specialist on Friday .
Feeling much happier after rant and more in control. House hopefully will sell asap and new chapters can begin. If this happens and I move to an hours drive away will still accomodate contact of some sort some how.
Also made contact with my sister. We fell out a while ago and probably will never be the same but life is too short and her fab daughter got ace GCSE results - IGCSE's come out earlier than normal GCSE's as they are international! All A's and A stars except the B for Malay 1 mark from an A and a C grade for Additonal maths which was very theory maths and was an extra IGCSE.
Monday, 22 August 2011
Just annoyed now...
Feather spitting, gurning, hand wringing, fist punching, door slamming anger has subsided. I rang CAFCASS to see where we are at legally - that meaning Weeny and I. Was very positive. Am not doing the next weekend due to happenings and also that when I have asked weeny a few questions I am getting answers I am not happy with. I will suggest mediation but I cannot pay for it. £80 a session. I cannot afford that at all. Times are desperate.After which I will happily do court. I have always had my suspicions that the other family pass derogatory comments about Me and Biggles. Weeny;s responses also suggesting that this happens.
Dropped house price to 90k offers in the region of!! I have kissed away 8k pretty much. Oh well as long as we move and sette d then ......
Dropped house price to 90k offers in the region of!! I have kissed away 8k pretty much. Oh well as long as we move and sette d then ......
Sunday, 21 August 2011
I hate women!
Grrr Another thing to add to the list!! Well some women- the type that stick their noses in where it is not needed. The SD has a girlfriend - has hadd one for a while. Not a problem till she starts making demands re access. Sperm Donor never that bothered before he had little miss house frau to keep his kids amused. Used to drop them off at his mothers. now that there are two old harridiens wanting her time things have changed.
This weekend. Weeny Girl was asked on a play date. As it was the Sunderland Newcastle Derby I suggested taht she not go for the full weekend only Saturday. HE would not be their anyway. He bleated on and I talked her out of it and into wanting to go to his. Felt bad as I thought her sister would be there. Anyway turns out she wasn't and was on holiday. I felt a little agggreived by this. Asked who was looking after her. No reply. Anyway got very annoyed. Sent some accusatory and insulting text messages. No reply went to pick her up. The girlfriend stuck herr nose in and threatened solicitors etc etc as 'everything seems to happen on her weekend' Err no parties and invites just happen. Anyway after being threatened will not be taking weeny back till he comes round here and we discuss things. She is not threatening me again or judging my parenting.
Just not going to happen. Sorry to be a bitch but will fill up weeny's time with exciting things and playdates on purpose now.
He never bothered before she turned up and that suited me. If he was parenting fine but this is driven by her and I outrank her when it is his weekend and he is not available as he has work or a season ticket or social event. I work all week and leave her mon- fri = 8am - 6pm. Time is precious and the girlfriend can take her place at the back of the queue.
Not happening again. What should I say to weeny if she asks why??? I am split between tempered honesty and just putting it off and saying he is on a long holiday?? How about the temered honesty - Lorraine doesn't like mummy and its best that we don't see each other. Daddy loves you vey much though he can't see you at the moment. One day he will come and play with you at your house??? Dunno it really doesn't sit well not letting her see her Dad.
They can do solicitors - I can't get one can't afford it. He will as he is seelf employed and will cook the books and get legal aid. I have been told just to ignore most of it- speak to caffcass when needed. Court not an option as I cannot get a babysitter or cannot get the time off work.
She will do it I get that feeling.
am going to pay up tomorrow and get house on market with alternative solicitors. Have had enough - bloody bitch - go have her own baby with him. FFS!
This weekend. Weeny Girl was asked on a play date. As it was the Sunderland Newcastle Derby I suggested taht she not go for the full weekend only Saturday. HE would not be their anyway. He bleated on and I talked her out of it and into wanting to go to his. Felt bad as I thought her sister would be there. Anyway turns out she wasn't and was on holiday. I felt a little agggreived by this. Asked who was looking after her. No reply. Anyway got very annoyed. Sent some accusatory and insulting text messages. No reply went to pick her up. The girlfriend stuck herr nose in and threatened solicitors etc etc as 'everything seems to happen on her weekend' Err no parties and invites just happen. Anyway after being threatened will not be taking weeny back till he comes round here and we discuss things. She is not threatening me again or judging my parenting.
Just not going to happen. Sorry to be a bitch but will fill up weeny's time with exciting things and playdates on purpose now.
He never bothered before she turned up and that suited me. If he was parenting fine but this is driven by her and I outrank her when it is his weekend and he is not available as he has work or a season ticket or social event. I work all week and leave her mon- fri = 8am - 6pm. Time is precious and the girlfriend can take her place at the back of the queue.
Not happening again. What should I say to weeny if she asks why??? I am split between tempered honesty and just putting it off and saying he is on a long holiday?? How about the temered honesty - Lorraine doesn't like mummy and its best that we don't see each other. Daddy loves you vey much though he can't see you at the moment. One day he will come and play with you at your house??? Dunno it really doesn't sit well not letting her see her Dad.
They can do solicitors - I can't get one can't afford it. He will as he is seelf employed and will cook the books and get legal aid. I have been told just to ignore most of it- speak to caffcass when needed. Court not an option as I cannot get a babysitter or cannot get the time off work.
She will do it I get that feeling.
am going to pay up tomorrow and get house on market with alternative solicitors. Have had enough - bloody bitch - go have her own baby with him. FFS!
Saturday, 20 August 2011
I may be forced to concede the next battle......
I may have to give in with the estate agents. You leave you pay basically. I really do not know where I will find 300 from to get away from Your Not Moving estate agents. I have sent a letter of complaint as I feel like I am actually doing more to sell my house than they are! I initiate price reductions, home improvements with no feedback form potential buyers etc I have also threatened the ombudsmen and have also found many poor reviews of YOUR MOVE estate agency.
I wait with baited breath! Doubtful anything will sell now untill I pay my way out of the shitty contract. They really do make me mad. Its not good being so pissed with a business when you live in a small town. Its not personal but living in a smalltown makes you more accountable and more vigilant or it should do as you cannot get away from your clientele!
Hmmm what to do next... If I pay the 300 I cannot afford carpets. My meagre savings are being pillaged as it is. I have asked if they do payment plans- doubtful.
I wait with baited breath! Doubtful anything will sell now untill I pay my way out of the shitty contract. They really do make me mad. Its not good being so pissed with a business when you live in a small town. Its not personal but living in a smalltown makes you more accountable and more vigilant or it should do as you cannot get away from your clientele!
Hmmm what to do next... If I pay the 300 I cannot afford carpets. My meagre savings are being pillaged as it is. I have asked if they do payment plans- doubtful.
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